Why I Do This Work

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I do this work because I’ve seen how quickly change can happen with the right approach!

The legacy I was born with is a particularly challenging one. Therapy and counseling were not prevalent in England in the 60’s and 70’s and had a reputation of being for ‘crazy people’. It took many years of floundering and bad decision making before I got on the track of finding myself, shaping myself and connecting to my spirit. Having gone down this road myself, collected some really great tools along the way, I strongly believe that it doesn’t need to take years!

One or two sessions can make a huge difference!

You know what happens if nothing changes. Do you want do be in the same place 5 or 10 years down the road? Even if it takes work, isn’t it worth it? Why not wake up to a new you…

My experiences, by background, my education do not define me. They are parts per million and merely make a contribution to my wholeness. This is our goal in working together: rather than allowing the difficulties of life to obstruct our path or to solidify into emotional, behavioral and physical patterns, we diffuse them so they drive us in a positive way as we connect to our core, what I call ‘the sacred self’.

My strengths and the diversity of challenges I have faced:

Multicultural Background: I was born in England in 1960, the only one in my family born in England: my mother is French, my father is Czechoslovakian and my two siblings were born in Australia. As a child I spent most of my summers in France and once i became a teenager spent the summers in Israel. In 1978 I stayed in Israel where I became a citizen, a kibbutz member and served in the IDF. I met my first husband there, an American man, and in 1982 we moved to the U.S.

My parents didn’t feel that any one of these countries was their ‘home’ but they felt the safest place was England because it allowed them to be pretty much anonymous. This presented such themes as: ‘safety in an unsafe world’, ‘not belonging’… which led me to find safety in myself, including being comfortable speaking up for myself, setting boundaries and defending myself. And although there is no one country or town that is my ‘home’, I am at home in myself wherever I am. With this comes an incredible sense of security, grounding and self-assurance.

Second Hand Trauma: My parents survived the Holocaust – my father survived Auschwitz and my mother survived the war by hiding in an attic in Paris. You can learn more about my parents history by clicking on their photos. My difficulties began in utero. My parents emerged from their experience with incredible levels of stress and anxiety. There is much research to show how babies in utero are affected by the emotional state of the parents, chemically changing the makeup or our natural pharmacy, jumpstarting dynamics of fear and stress, etc.

First Hand Trauma: As a teenager, my parent’s legacy overwhelmed me. I felt lost in their experiences, and suffered anxiety, depression, a sense of hopelessness, desperation, ptsd, nightmares, fantasies and plans of escape in the event the Nazi’s came for me. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the effects were so powerful that I didn’t have a sense of self.

Emotional Trauma: As a child I was not only bathed by my parents love but by their rage, despair, grief, bitterness, hopelessness, and helplessness.

Alcohol, Promiscuity & Date Rape: As a young girl, I found that men were attracted to me. This began happening, as it often does, before I recognized it. I was eleven when I started my period and as my hormones started kicking in I found myself in a world that I didn’t understand and didn’t know how to cope with. I was already lost and wounded and like many teenagers, my drugs of choice were alcohol and promiscuity. In my teens, I experienced two different situations of date rape, once in England and again in France.

Independence: I craved being independent and moved out at sixteen. I also loved my parents deeply and felt they deserved so much more than the life they were experiencing that I couldn’t stand the pain of witnessing the life they had.

Physical Attack: Walking with my ex-husband-to-be in Jerusalem in my early twenties, I was attacked and had a knife held at my throat. It was after this that I learned self-defense with Impact, Model Mugging (which eventually led me to becoming an instructor). In my thirties a gang tried to rob me at knifepoint on a train going from Italy into Marseille.

Other life experiences: 

Relationships:I’ve been through divorce. I’m in my second marriage to a man I’ve been in relationship with since about 2000 – we married after a near-death car accident in 2012.

 

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